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Welp, this is a close call.

A tourist was bitten on the leg by a crocodile on at Cape Tribulation in Queensland, Australia on Monday night, while standing on a creek bank close to the waters edge.

SEE ALSO: Maybe don't get a photo with your friends inside a crocodile trap

A Queensland Department of Environment and Heritage Protection (EHP) spokesperson said in a statement the crocodile was estimated to be 2 to 2.5 metres (78 to 98 inches) long.

A video posted on the Facebook page of Ally Bullifent shows the crocodile attack, which comes out of nowhere. It'll be sure to give you a shock.

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The EHP said it would carry out a site assessment of the area on Tuesday, and will possibly target the crocodile "for removal" as it has displayed dangerous behaviour in a designated area. This means it'll be moved to a crocodile farm or a zoo, according to the Cairns Post(opens in a new tab).

For authorities, it also serves as a reminder about staying safe in areas where crocodiles might be around. Earlier this year, an 18-year-old boy was attacked by a crocodile while reportedly trying to impress a girl.

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Whip up smoothies and frozen cocktails
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Throw down a colorful towel
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That didn't stop travelers from going into meltdown mode on Twitter, though, cracking jokes and lamenting in general.
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Read a lot of self-help books, as many of us did during the pandemic, and patterns start to emerge. (We're not just talking about the titles getting more sweary.) In 2020, I boiled the advice of hundreds of books down to 11 rules that recur throughout history and are backed up by science. These were, in short: build small habits; plan clearly; accept disruption; postpone judgment; carpe your limited diem; be playful; be useful; learn to chill; write; let others help. Oh yes, and perfectionism leads to procrastination – a rule that still feels like a personal attack.
When I reviewed the latest in preventative healthcare a year later, I also found advice that could be reduced to a list that seemed almost tauntingly easy. A doctor ran through a list of DNA markers that made me more at risk for a range of diseases, as well as a few concerning numbers in my bloodwork. What could I do to put them right and alleviate my genetic risks? In every case, the answer came down to just four incredibly basic things: Better sleep, more frequent exercise, better nutrition decisions, more stress-reducing meditation. Add those four to the original 11, and you end up with 15 easy rules for the ideal healthy life. Right?
Wrong, because here's the problem with being human: Awareness of what you need to do is a universe away from actually doing it. Yale professor Laurie Santos brought this point home in the happiness course I reviewed in 2021. "Knowing is not half the battle," Santos says, upending a quote from the 1980s G.I. Joe cartoon. You can read all the happiness studies there are and still struggle to improve your own life, as Santos admits she does.
Or in my case, you can write repeatedly about the importance of sleep, test sleep trackers, and still struggle to get six hours in bed a night. (That's thanks in part to being a night owl, a chronotype that science tells us we shouldn't try to change, living in a lark world.)
Here's how I would reduce those 15 rules to one: We are all basically meatsacks. No matter how smart we are, our brains are shaped by powerful evolutionary chemicals, and are often incredibly difficult to rewire. This may not be the most uplifting self-help notion, but it should encourage you to forgive yourself if you fail, and try again with more modest habit-changes. (How are those New Years' resolutions going, fam?)
Still, we all know what a breakthrough looks like: the rare moment when you try some form of self-improvement and it actually takes. Perhaps the most honest thing a writer of self-help can do is outline their own successes and failures, while noting where the science stands, and the constant caveat that your mileage may vary. What follows, then, is nothing more or less than stuff I've written about that has changed my life in ways large and, as in the first instance, deceptively small.
Click on the titles for more details and the science behind each change. If we're lucky, there might just be one or two things in this list that work for your meatsack too.
1. Drinking lemon water
I don't follow a specific diet plan, though I've tried many of them in the past. The most useful in my experience was the Whole30, a month-long reset button where you just eat plants and protein and don't count calories or bother to weigh yourself. It helped in the long run by increasing the number of easy vegetable-cooking options in my limited repertoire. (Eggplant, asparagus, and sweet potato slices with olive oil in the toaster oven FTW.)
But there is something I consume religiously, multiple times a day. I fill a 30-ounce tumbler with ice and water, squeeze in half a lemon, and drink the ultra-cold result through a straw (to avoid harming the enamel on my teeth). It's the most refreshing way I've found to stay hydrated, and one that seems to be winning converts the more friends I share it with. I find it cuts down my need for snacks by filling my stomach; these days I even find it preferable to alcohol at mealtimes. If you're looking to replace sugary drinks (and UCSF pediatrician Robert Lustig's famous sugar lecture(Opens in a new tab) often reminds me why that's a good idea), iced lemon water might be just the ticket.
2. Running with perfect playlists
There are many great forms of exercise I've enjoyed over the years: Yoga; tai chi (which could use more love from the tech world); e-biking (in year-long reviews, wild distance rides, and hot bike summers); hiking, especially during the pandemic; snowshoeing in winter (with the perfect audiobook). The one that stuck, much to my surprise, was running. I started doing it daily during 2020 as a much-needed stress reliever, very gradually upping my distance (currently 7K a day) even while masked.
As with a lot of my habits, I track my daily 7K via the award-winning Streaks app(Opens in a new tab), which helps keep me honest. But I wouldn't have kept it going without a couple of obsessively-curated Spotify playlists that help me run at the recommended number of steps per minute – playlists I now listen to through the ideal pair of running headphones.
3. Breathing through the nose
I knew the importance of breath from yoga and meditation, but James Nestor's 2020 bestseller Breath was what really changed my behavior. In short: inhaling and exhaling slowly through the nose is key, even while exercising, especially while asleep. I never imagined I'd put a small strip of surgical tape on my lips at bedtime, as Nestor does, but was surprised to find it makes even my minimal amount of sleep much more refreshing.
4. Meditating without a guide
As the creator of March Mindfulness, a tongue-in-cheek meditation contest now in its fifth year, I know the value of being light, playful, and experimental with this often-too-serious practice. Whatever helps you meditate regularly, especially amidst the chaos of a pandemic, is good! Personally, I find the drone of voices that tell you how to do it to be a distraction. Most days you can find me simply following my breath for five minutes at a time via the Mindfulness app on the Apple Watch, or using the Muse 2 (which listens to feedback from your brain with less hassle than the later Muse S).
5. Flipping the fasting switch – without actually fasting
Science tells us that giving our cells more time without energy intake is what helps them become hardy, removing disease-causing junk like misfolded proteins. But in our diet-obsessed world, fasting can too easily become associated with eating disorders. So rather than stick to a complicated intermittent fasting schedule, I follow the advice of Harvard genetics professor David Sinclair, whose studies suggest we can halt aging and maybe even live to 150.
Sinclair recommends a couple of over-the-counter supplements that mimic the effects of fasting at a cellular level: NMN and resveratrol. (A major 2021 study(Opens in a new tab) confirmed the anti-aging benefits of NMN, which is derived from niacin, and while cautioning that more study was needed, recognized that "no rigorous side-effects" have been reported; similarly no severe side effects have been found for resveratrol(Opens in a new tab), which occurs naturally in grapes and other food.)
Having taken both for two and a half years, I find, like Sinclair, that they give me more energy and have reversed a number of gray hairs (something we can also do simply by de-stressing, according to a recent groundbreaking study.)
6. Keeping a digital diary
You may have seen studies that show writing a gratitude journal(Opens in a new tab) can improve your health. I still roll my eyes at that notion. That said, journaling in general is a form of therapy I can't do without, especially when my daily entries are written, calligraphy pen-style, on the gorgeous ReMarkable 2 e-ink tablet. Once a month I drop those handwritten entries into my digital diary app, DayOne, which syncs seamlessly and securely to all my devices. DayOne's "on this day" feature is a profoundly useful (if often cringeworthy) way to see patterns of negative thoughts and feelings. The more I'm aware that they recur across the years, the more likely I can resist them in the future.
7. Finding flow, the fun way
The science of cannabis and psychedelic medicine has evolved by leaps and bounds these past few years. I've written about authors who microdose LSD and why it's just as effective as other so-called smart drugs, and the respected mushroom researcher who promotes psilocybin's therapeutic effects in small doses. (Think Nine Perfect Strangers, but with consent.)
But perhaps the most useful suggestion came from author and researcher Steven Kotler, who studies the science of the powerfully productive brain state known as flow. Kotler found that the chemical signature of flow in the brain is indistinguishable from the combination of coffee, exercise, and a small dose of cannabis. Your mileage is definitely going to vary on this one, depending on local laws. (Hello from California!) But in my carefully-curated experience, Kotler is clearly on to something.
8. Hacking my dreams
I may not be the best at staying asleep as long as I should. But I have learned to enjoy and extend the trippy experiences that come at both ends of the night: brain states called hypnagogia and hypnopompia that science still barely understands. Dream hacker Jennifer Dumpert calls this liminal dreaming, and it may be the wildest, weirdest natural high our meatsack brains have to offer.
9. Sculpting my brain
Taking a course in "neurosculpting" in 2019 left me with a few residual practices I still use: gargling to soothe the vagus nerve; literally "shaking it off," Taylor Swift-style, to shift out of an anxious brain state. But the most important impression the course left was how hard it is to train the brain's natural neuroplasticity to kick in. You have to be thoroughly relaxed, with at least 20 minutes of deep meditation, before even attempting to make any changes to that troublesome meatsack brain.
10. Reclaiming my time
In a normal week, my most-used app is Todoist. It's the one that most effectively implements productivity author David Allen's simple and widely-used system, Getting Things Done or GTD. But every so often, I'll spend a week noting how I use my time via the ATracker app. My categories: creating, reading, exercising, tasks, sleep, everything else.
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Looking at the week in retrospect, without judgment, can help me lean in to the times when I'm most productive in each area rather than trying to shoehorn change into my natural schedule. And the simple act of timing helps me think more about exactly what I want to do in any given moment. Some week soon I may even have the gumption to further reclaim my time from the social media algorithms that dominate too much of it – by implementing Screenless Sundays and ditching apps Marie Kondo-style.
11. Preparing for the midlife dip
As the elders of the millennial generation are starting to learn, the 40s are a "decade of despair." That's not just subjective opinion, but a growing body of science; evolution seems to have primed all primates for a midlife crisis that helps them become wiser and happier on the other end. Knowing this isn't close to half the battle, of course. But it does help you take a beat if the negative voices in your fortysomething head tell you to radically upend your life without a good plan. In short: It gets better.
12. Discovering what's truly essential
The pandemic disrupted a lot of daily life. But it also offered clarity on the stuff that really matters, which is way less than we thought. Commuting, for many of us, isn't essential; community is, for all of us. In the post-COVID-19 world, the list of things I'll likely use less than I did in the Before Times includes sunglasses, office chairs, regular pants, and airplanes. And when it comes to the internet, there are things we could stand to do more – like truly unbiased research and bringing our online identities closer to reality.
13. Remembering how little time we have
The best form of time management may involve looking at life in terms of weeks, as one efficiency expert recommends – because we have so frighteningly few of them. Like any form of memento mori, the "four thousand weeks" method helps remind us that we have little time to do what's most important to us. And even if we don't figure it out with enough weeks left, on a long enough time scale, very few achievements truly matter. So just chill, and write that novel or paint that painting or record that music because it pleases you, not with any eye to history.
14. Remembering what matters
Self care is a political act and always has been seen as such, from Socrates to Audre Lorde. It isn't about pampering, it's about stepping back and taking stock of yourself so that you can jump back into the fray and more effectively fight for just causes. Though human nature is more filled with kindness than you might expect, and we are in many ways living through the best time in history, there is still plenty wrong in the world – much of it driven by the fact that extreme wealth tends to turn billionaires into assholes.
That won't get fixed if we all stand idly by. So take the time you need to work on yourself, but remember that working for all of us is more fulfilling. As much as personal decisions matter (choosing alternate meat or alternate milk, growing your own veg, leaving no trace, not buying a car), it's societal change that matters more.
Perhaps most pressingly, you could fight for universal healthcare, which is most definitely a thing that worked for me. Or for universal basic income, speeding the end of global poverty, implementing a cryptocurrency-based solution for climate change, or the late E.O. Wilson's idea that we just need to leave half the Earth alone, or for a regulatory nudge as simple as requiring all gas stations to provide electric vehicle chargers. Band together, apply pressure to leaders, don't stop – and your self-helped self could honestly help to change the world.

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How to stop grieving over lost time after a breakup
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If there’s any feeling we all know all too well, it’s heartbreak. At some point in our lives, we’ll all feel it, become consumed by it, and feel the unique grief it brings us.
Much like when someone dies, studies show that we grieve after a breakup(opens in a new tab). And as we all know, there are seven stages of grief: shock, denial, isolation, anger, depression, the emotional rollercoaster, and, finally, acceptance. The one that’s missing though, especially where breakups are concerned, is the part all people feel after a relationship breaks down: mourning the time that’s been lost.
After acceptance rolls in and you realise the relationship won’t be revived, you’d think most of us would embrace freedom, redownload the dating apps and get back out there. But often, there’s a period of grief for the time you feel was wasted on a person you’ve now lost, even if it was for good reason. So, how exactly do we shift this mindset away from feeling like we've wasted precious time on a relationship that isn't going the distance?
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The post-breakup panic over wasted time
"Not to make a relationship sound transactional, but I feel like I lost an investment," 26-year-old store manager Daisy* tells Mashable. "My boyfriend of six years broke up with me about three months ago and while I feel like I’m mostly getting over it — I don’t think about him as much anymore and I’m on the apps meeting people — I’m just fuming that I put so much of me into that relationship and now I have nothing to show for it."
"Not to make a relationship sound transactional, but I feel like I lost an investment."

She adds, "When I think about it, and I try not to, I literally spent my entire 20s with him. I have no idea if it was worth it. I can’t stop thinking about what my life might have been if I’d skipped him, and spent my 20s doing what other 20-year-olds were doing: Partying, meeting a wide variety of people, trying out different jobs. I can’t stop feeling like I lost my most important years to him."
This feeling is even more prevalent for some after the pandemic, which warped our concepts of time and led us to sometimes feel like more time has passed than it actually has. For many of us, the pandemic also left us feeling worried about how much time we’d lost to lockdowns and how much we had left to do the things we wanted to. Add in a breakup, and you’ve got the perfect combination for panic over where all our time went.
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Dating and relationships expert Callisto Adams, who has a PhD in sexuality counselling, says it is common to feel like you've wasted time or lost part of your life when a relationship ends because those partnerships are often built on emotional investments and shared experiences. "When a relationship ends, it can feel like you've lost not only a partner but also a part of yourself and the future you’d planned," she tells Mashable.
"This can happen for a variety of reasons. For example, people may feel like they've lost their sense of self or self-worth, or that they've missed out on opportunities or experiences they would have had if the relationship continued," she explains, adding that they may also feel guilty or regretful for not ending the relationship sooner.
Breaking up in your thirties
34-year-old property manager Ellen, who asked to use her first name only, has been struggling with the same type of mourning for almost six months. She and her partner mutually ended a relationship around seven months ago, after eight years together. She can’t stop wondering whether those eight years would have been better spent elsewhere.
She tells Mashable, "I’ve always been the kind of person who knows exactly what they want to do with their life. I had a strict idea of when I wanted to get married and have kids and how long I’d want to be with ‘the one’ before it happened. Breaking up with someone in my thirties was never part of that plan."
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Ellen says she got over the actual relationship after a few "very hard months". They both knew it wasn’t right and she got more and more frustrated each year that he didn’t propose to her.
"That part, realising we weren’t right for one another and would be going our separate ways, I could get over," Ellen says. "But having to start my whole life plan from the beginning at 34? I burst into tears every time I think about how far away I am from my goals, and how much more urgent it is now that I'm older. I’m not ageist and all for people going after new things at an older age, but let’s face it. There’s a biological clock limiting my time with kids. And I wanted to have them at 35. That isn’t happening anymore."
She continues, "What frustrates me most is I’m now wasting even more time feeling angry about the time I’ve lost. I keep switching between being upset about the years that have gone down the drain, that I could have put into someone who did want the things I wanted, and angry that I’m wasting more time now and I can’t pull myself together."
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Adams explains that this feeling of mourning the time lost to a failed relationship can get worse as we get older, particularly if we want to get married or start a family, because relationships are no longer just relationships. They are essentially our access routes to getting the life that we want.
"As we age, we may feel more pressure to settle down and make long-term commitments. We may also become more aware of the limited time we have left to find a partner or start a family," Adams explains.
Adams adds that this feeling of losing time can be more likely to happen when a relationship has been toxic or harmful. "In these cases, the emotional investment is often greater, and the feeling of betrayal or loss can be more intense," she says.
28-year-old barista Hattie, who also asked to use her first name only, left a toxic relationship two months ago, after five years together due to the the two of them "constantly screaming at each other over the tiniest things." She tells Mashable, "The first two years were good but it went wrong after that. We were constantly arguing, and sometimes those arguments would end up with him just storming out and going missing for days. Then he’d just show up again and refuse to tell me where he’d been. It was really toxic."
"I finally left with the help of my friends and I think we were both relieved. We were both so mean to each other and we definitely both need to get some therapy and work on ourselves."
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Hattie continues, "I’m just in so much pain over the time I spent there. I should have ended the relationship as soon as things got bad. Why did I wait three years? I always see these messages on Facebook and Instagram about life being too short and needing to go after the things you want and I just feel like I failed. I wasted all that time."
To stop obsessing over the time that's been lost to a bad relationship, Adams says it's essential to focus on the present and the opportunities that are available to you now. "It's also important to take the time to process your emotions and feelings and to seek support from friends and family," she adds.
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"Engage in hobbies or activities that you enjoy, practise self-care, and seek professional help if needed. It's also important to remember that it's normal to have feelings of sadness and loss after a relationship ends and to be gentle with yourself as you navigate this process," Adams recommends.
Our grief over wasted time when a relationship ends is ultimately embedded in the societal idea that to be single, after a certain age, is to fail.
Letting go of patriarchal relationship ideals
Thanks to good old capitalism and the culture of pro-natalism, which centres the nuclear family as an ideal we should all be reaching towards, which most of us grow up with the deep-seated idea that we should spend our 20s looking for a partner, and be settled with them, permanently, by around the age of 30. According to one study,(opens in a new tab) these systems make it so when we don’t achieve these societal milestones, we feel anxious, depressed, and worried about being viewed as a failure by family, particularly in-laws, and our peers — particularly for those with limited resources. This means we’re prone to measure our success based on romantic achievements obtained as young as possible, and subconsciously place goal posts around our relationships — even if that’s not how we actually feel towards romance. And breakups can pull us further away from that imaginary finish line.
"We see relationships ending as a failure because society often views relationships as a measure of success and happiness."
Adams explains that "we see relationships ending as a failure because society often views relationships as a measure of success and happiness. People may feel like they've failed to find or maintain a loving and healthy relationship."
It’s also natural for people to look for ‘mistakes’ in their own behaviour as a defence when a relationship has been toxic, harmful, or abusive. We’ll think things like ‘I wasted my time with him when I could have been doing something else’ and that’s because, sometimes, it’s easier to pretend the experience was a result of your mistake, and therefore avoidable in the future, rather than entirely down to the person we were attached to. This is, of course, not true. No one is ever cruel to you because of something you did.
This idea that a relationship breaking down is a personal failure is capitalism in its truest form. We grow up with the message that an archetypal relationship developing into a nuclear family is the ultimate destination, and that every relationship breakdown is a personal setback.
But we all have different ideas of what we want our lives to look like, and putting yourself out there to work on a relationship that ends up not working out is never a waste of time. It’s a brave and vulnerable thing to do.
What can help is to look at the lessons we can take away when a relationship ends. Often, relationships breakdown as a result of a communication mishap, a violation of trust, or some type of argument. Within those instances are lessons to take into our future relationships and the way we take care of ourselves. It’s time we all collectively rethink what success in a relationship truly means. People will come into our lives, and leave again, and each time we will learn something about ourselves. The relationship will end, but that impact will always remain. There’s no failure in that.
Remember, all relationships in life will end, maybe after weeks, years, decades, one partner's death, but they all end. Things ending are not 'failure', just life. You can look at your relationships as endings, or simply things that you experienced and now you’re free to try something else.
Looks like Paul Ryans riding the meme train out of Congress
Looks like Paul Ryans riding the meme train out of Congress
There's no way Paul Ryan thought he'd be able to announce his retirement from Congress without getting brutally and ruthlessly memed, right?
Paul's a meme-able guy to begin with, and after the American people dragged his dabbing and emoji usage it only made sense that people were quick to create memes in response to Ryan's announcement that he would not be seeking re-election(opens in a new tab).
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On Wednesday morning after learning the news, Twitter filled with Ryan memes. Many decided to go with the popular "If you can't handle me at my worst(opens in a new tab)" split screen meme format, because, well, the internet will never forget about those old photos of Ryan "working out."
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Others got even more creative.
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Sadly Donald Trump opted out of meme-ing his pal and instead called him "a truly good man." K!
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Ryan will reportedly serve out his full term and retire in January, so there's still valuable meme time left.

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How to make sure your phone works when you travel internationally
How to make sure your phone works when you travel internationally
You've got a brand-new passport and you're ready to finally leave your home country to see something new. Overseas travel can be a ton of fun, but there are also a bunch of considerations you need to make before doing it. One of these is making sure your phone works.
A smartphone is a great way to find things to do, maneuver your way around, and generally document your journey abroad. How are you going to get those Instagram posts off if your phone doesn't work? Maybe you'd like to call a loved one and tell them how things are going, too. That's probably more important.
Unfortunately, you can't just bring your phone as-is to another country and expect it to work without a hitch. That's not how the world works. You probably won't need to get a brand new phone just for your trip, but the options for using your normal phone vary by both convenience and price.
Thankfully, this is something people do every day. As such, there are some well-established and fairly simple ways to just keep using your regular phone in another country. You just have to know what to do, and that's where we come in.
Here are some ways you can use your phone overseas.
Make sure your phone will work
This should be less of a problem for those with recent smartphones, but there's always a possibility your phone won't be compatible with different cell frequencies around the world. This is because of the mobile standards known as GSM and CDMA.
The technical differences between the two are a bit much to get into here, but PCMag(Opens in a new tab) has a helpful guide to that if you're interested. Just know that a GSM-compliant phone is more likely to work around the world than a CDMA-compliant phone, and if your phone is recent enough, you probably don't need to worry about that.
If you don't feel like doing a bunch of homework but you still want to have all your bases covered, you can always call your phone company to verify your phone will work overseas. Otherwise, you can find out with enough internet research; Apple, for example, has a page for this on its website(Opens in a new tab). There's also a trip planner tool with this issue in mind on Verizon's website(Opens in a new tab).
Check your carrier's options
Every mobile service provider understands that their customers might need to travel overseas on occasion and has specific service plans in place for this. On paper, this seems great. You don't have to buy anything or mess with your phone to make it work abroad because your service carrier will just make it work on their end.
The only problem is the price.
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This will vary from carrier to carrier, but international plans can be expensive and not always that great. With major carriers like AT&T(Opens in a new tab), Sprint(Opens in a new tab) and Verizon(Opens in a new tab), you're generally looking at about $10 per day and per device in most countries.
As The Wirecutter(Opens in a new tab) pointed out, these can come with data allowances, which can be annoying depending on how much you're using your phone while you travel. In general, these kinds of plans might be more useful for short overseas trips. If you plan on being away from the U.S. for a week or more, you should really consider our next option.
Look into getting a local SIM card

One of these little guys will be your best friend outside of the country. Credit: Getty Images/EyeEm

The cheapest and best way to use your phone in another country is almost always going to be with a local SIM card. In case you're unfamiliar, SIM stands for "subscriber identity module" and the SIM card in your phone is what lets you go online, make calls, so on and so forth.
The card in your current phone lets you do those things in your home country, but it won't fly elsewhere. Thankfully, you can pretty easily get one that's tuned to wherever you're going upon arrival.
You should probably do some location-specific research to find out the best place to get a local SIM card before you travel, but at least in some cases, you can get them right at the airport. For instance, a friend of mine recently took a week-long trip to the U.K. and picked one up at Heathrow Airport.
In total, it cost them about $30 USD to get a month's worth of phone use on a local network. Their phone number temporarily changed, but it reverted right back once they got home and put their old SIM card back in.
The only potential headaches here are finding a store to get a SIM card and making sure your phone is unlocked. You should contact your carrier ahead of time and see if they can unlock your phone so SIM installation is as painless as possible.
Oh, and make sure your phone lets you remove your SIM card at all. There should be a little slot on the side, but not every phone will be your friend in this regard. Better safe than sorry.

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New Zealand female soccer players will be paid the same as men
New Zealand female soccer players will be paid the same as men
New Zealand has taken a huge step when it comes to equality in sport.
The country's chief footballing organisation, New Zealand Football, and the New Zealand Professional Footballers' Association (NZPFA) have come to an agreement(opens in a new tab) which will see international players representing the country paid equally.
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Women will also receive equal prize money, equal rights for image use and notably, have the same travel benefits as their male counterparts.
As the New Zealand Herald(opens in a new tab) notes, that allows female players to be flown business class on flights six hours or more when representing their country.
It's an important benefit given much of the national team -- dubbed the Football Ferns -- compete in European or U.S. leagues, like captain Ali Riley, who plays for Swedish club FC Rosengård.
"The Football Ferns, who are ranked inside the top 20 in the world, are the flagship of women's football in New Zealand. They are role models for the 30,000 female players throughout our country," New Zealand Football chief executive, Andy Martin, said in a statement.
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The men's team, the All Whites, are 133rd in the world in the FIFA rankings. The move follows Norway, who signed an agreement last December(opens in a new tab) to pay international female and male players the same wages when they represent the country.
There's still some way to go when it comes to equality at club level. English club Lewes FC became the first professional or semi-professional team to have pay parity last year(opens in a new tab), while England's Football Association pledged to reduce the gender pay gap(opens in a new tab) among club staff.
One of the world's highest paid footballers, Brazilian forward Neymar, will earn $44.6 million (37.4 million EUR) playing for French club Paris Saint Germain in the 2017-18 season alone.
It's the equivalent salary of 1,693 female players across seven top leagues, as per a report by Sporting Intelligence(opens in a new tab) last year.
And sure, while men's leagues have long been established, attracting larger crowds and thus television deals, the report notes that for each professional women's footballer, there are at least 106 men making a full-time living from the sport.

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